Appreciate what life still has to offer while you can.
The great wonder of middle age is that we know our time is now limited.
We may carry the hurt from past relationships, so we protect ourselves by trying to appear in control.
Yet no relationship was ever deepened by lovers’ attempts to assert themselves over each other – rather, it is through the mutual exploration of their imperfections, fears and anxieties that true connection occurs. Change the metaphor that you associate with developing your relationship. “Work” feels heavy and makes us think of future struggles, whereas “playfulness” engages the things you associate with good times, childhood comforts and moments of spontaneity.
It’s worth going out of your way to have a good laugh, especially if things have been rocky.It can be surprising and revealing and paves the way for honesty.We tend to jump in with an opinion before we’ve heard each other out.It is possible to maintain a happy sex-life for decades with the same person.It may not be as often, or the sort of sex that you think you should be having, or think others must be having (but aren’t) – just relax and enjoy this special kind of intimacy together.