I am very new to any dating at all, much less internet dating and I am starting to see what a thin skin I have when it comes to this. And I know the weight thing has been done to death so i won't go on too much about it, but I do think it's unbelieveable that a girl can be anywhere from 3' to 8' tall and make less than ,000 a year as long as she's thin, fit, athletic. Sorry - I'm just having a minor freak out here so thanks for bearing with me. It's so different meeting people through a website vs in person.
In my life, I am the fun girl, the one everyone wants to know. Did any of you feel this way when you first started this? Don't take it personally when someone doesn't respond. I posted a thread in the Testimonials section called "After 18 months..." where I go into details about pros and cons.
Perhaps your issue is more about straightening out that aspect of your life before you start looking.
A lot of people are going to pass you up when they see that is not resolved.
Another great way of really getting to know someone... People can write all sorts of things about themselves in their profiles...
but their true nature is clearly shown in the things they have to say, and the opinions they share.
Sometimes it just means they haven't logged on in a while. You have access to lots of profiles here and will surely meet someone nice. But I stuck it out and met a lot of great people online. I went out with someone who told me on the first date that she preferred guys who were bigger than she was LOL because it made her feel more secure. There's a lot of rejection and you have to get used to it.
I've found over the years too that whether thin or "thick", there are people who are into your type. I will say, however, that your profile says "separated" and that is going to work against you on a dating site.
For me personally, I know for a fact that I get a much better response from women when I meet them face to face. Unfortunately I don't have time to stop and chat with anyone during the day and that's why I turned to POF. A lot of people will go after others on nothing more than appearance. And they will read a person's profile, and judge based on that wether or not they want to get to know the person.You WILL be judged on very superficial things like your appearance and your weight, but you have to ask yourself if you really CARE if someone is dismissing you based solely on those attributes? It's who someone is that counts, not what they look like.Are those the type of people you want in your life? And someone you'll want to be with, is going to know this... they'll read what you have written about yourself, and decide on that.There are plenty of other sites for that - you're looking for a long-lasting relationship with someone who truly gets you.Your time is far too valuable to be filtering through countless profiles of singles who have little in common with you.